SLUTCON ?

slut /slʌt/

noun

1. a promiscuous person (archaic, derogatory) 2. Someone who embraces their sexual self without shame. About owning who you are, what you want, and how you connect.

A photographer takes fresh headshots you can actually use on your dating profiles. Come and go as you like.

A ton of the guys last year were too nervous to hit on the pretty girls, or were nervous enough that they would ramble about the artificiality of the container or apologize or hover-hand instead of doing anything that was legibly flirting.

A small-group session with a 1:1 gender ratio. Men practice physical escalation step by step — from eye contact, to extending a hand, to whatever their partner is comfortable with and responsive to. Sexual activity and kissing are prohibited; dance, massage, and embrace are allowed if the partner is comfortable with them.

A ton of the guys last year were too nervous to hit on the pretty girls, or were nervous enough that they would ramble about the artificiality of the container or apologize or hover-hand instead of doing anything that was legibly flirting.

A photographer takes fresh headshots you can actually use on your dating profiles. Come and go as you like.

Why do the same relationship problems keep recurring no matter how many conversations you have about them? Whether you're navigating monogamy, polyamory, kink, or something in between, communication alone often isn't enough. Drawing on Attachment Theory and clinical practice, Charlotte and Romulus explore how attachment patterns shape connection, conflict, jealousy, intimacy, and desire, and offer practical tools for identifying the root causes of recurring conflict and building more resilient, honest relationships.

A candid discussion of rejection, uncertainty, and the mechanics of actually asking people out.

A small-group session with a 1:1 gender ratio. Men practice flirting with a partner and get live feedback from her plus coaching from the facilitator. May involve limited physical contact depending on the partner's comfort level.

Your orientation for the weekend

Casual flirting in the central courtyard, with bingo cards on hand as conversation prompts and icebreakers.

An interactive workshop pairing people who want to be tied with people who want to tie. Pairs discuss boundaries together, then the person being tied is bound and, by prior agreement, may be blindfolded and given earplugs. Depending on the boundary discussion, pairs may include over-the-clothes touching or massage.

An interactive workshop covering rope bondage safety and consent norms alongside technical fundamentals, with hands-on practice in pairs.

Part 1 of 3: An interactive workshop series where women share their first impressions of men, men share how they'd like to be perceived, and men work to close the gap between the two.

A small-group session with a 1:1 gender ratio. Men practice physical escalation step by step — from eye contact, to extending a hand, to whatever their partner is comfortable with and responsive to. Sexual activity and kissing are prohibited; dance, massage, and embrace are allowed if the partner is comfortable with them.

The harm-reduction toolkit MSM communities have used for 15+ years, applied to everyone who's been excluded from it without their consent: slutty straights, poly folk, and kinky folk alike. Dr. Hoe Listic covers standard and off-label medications, supplements, layered vaccines, and after-hookup prophylaxis — what to take and when — plus the common testing blind spots that keep chlamydia and other STIs circulating, and the exact language to use when a doctor refuses to test or prescribe off-label. This isn't a moral question — it's informed consent and freedom of choice.

A workshop on visualizing exactly what you want in explicit, erotic detail, and how that can help you make some of it come true. Led by Gretta Duleba and John Wentworth.

Theme: FIRST DATE. Music, dancing, and mingling into the night. What to wear: whatever you'd wear to impress on a first date. The good jeans, the dress you save, a blazer over a tee. Effort over costume. Dressing up is optional but highly encouraged.

A small-group session with a 1:1 gender ratio. Men practice flirting with a partner and get live feedback from her plus coaching from the facilitator. May involve limited physical contact depending on the partner's comfort level.

An interactive dance workshop and dance floor free-for-all facilitated by Aella. Come move.

A hands-on braiding workshop — learn a few styles and techniques, and maybe braid a stranger's hair (with consent, of course).

An introduction to impact play with a focus on good old-fashioned spanking. After a presentation on theory, safety, and consent, a hands-on "spanking lab" gives everyone a chance to practice.

Learn to lead partner dances with the kind of confidence that people can feel. Lead Like a Lover is an introduction to my Integrated Polarity work—a practice for creating attraction through honesty, polarizing connection, building heat, and deepening intimacy. Through dance, you’ll learn to communicate desire and direction clearly, stay attuned to your partner, and lead with presence rather than performance. Along the way, you’ll strengthen your inner game while developing an embodied skill that women genuinely love to experience.

A hands-on massage workshop covering theory, safety, and communication/consent basics, with plenty of opportunity to practice on a partner.

Circling is an interactive group practice for cultivating authentic, present-moment connection, exploring real-time thoughts, feelings, and reactions together. This session is conducted in the nude. No prior circling experience needed.

An anatomy and physiology deep-dive into full vulvar and uterine arousal: what's actually happening in the body during engorgement, why it matters for pleasure, and what it takes to get all the way there.

An introduction to Dominant/submissive dynamics for anyone curious about topping, bottoming, or both. Kim Lee walks through the core principles of ethical D/s — consent, negotiation, accountability, trust, authority, and responsibility — and what separates a healthy dynamic from manipulation, coercion, or abuse.

An evidence-based look at what research says men find attractive, with concrete, implementable takeaways rather than vague advice.

A guided, men-only reflection circle — space to check in with yourself and other men in a structured, supportive format.

Nightmare on why it's essential to build the muscle of both taking responsibility and letting go of control. Switching between the two helps you understand others' experience and find your own footing in a chaotic world.

Getting right with physical aggression, social pressure, and male competition

A presentation and practice session on pompoir — the art of vaginal muscle control — with sex educator Sam Lidbury.

A flirtation with physics that fuses dance-floor romance with “I’ve got you” energy. Use these lifts as a party trick, a first-date flex, or a moment of delicious anticipation. Ever watched a man lift a woman effortlessly on the dance floor and thought, I wish I could do that? This workshop is about making that moment real, without years of dance training or superhuman strength. The emphasis is on intuition, connection, and body mechanics, not brute force. These are lifts that look cinematic but are surprisingly approachable, designed to make her feel safe, sensual, and light in your arms… and to make you feel confident doing it. No dance experience required. Just curiosity, respect, and a willingness to try something new. Come learn how to sweep a woman off her feet, literally.

Meet others on the marriage track through interactive prompts, guided somatic exercises, and positive reflections. Along the way, we'll talk about what commitment means to us - and what stories we hold about marriage.

A style workshop covering the fundamentals of men's fashion, with live, constructive outfit feedback for anyone who wants a second opinion.

Part 2 of 3: An interactive workshop series where women share their first impressions of men, men share how they'd like to be perceived, and men work to close the gap between the two.

A session with women who can consciously turn magnetism on and off, offering a rare, direct look at the signals behind attraction and interest.

A playful, low-stakes men-only wrestling game — grip, grapple, and try to pull off the other guy's socks.

Circling is an interactive group practice for cultivating authentic, present-moment connection. Participants explore real-time experience together — noticing thoughts, feelings, and reactions as they arise — while building skills in presence, vulnerability, and relational awareness. No prior experience needed.

A discussion of erotic hypnosis practice followed by a live performance/demo. Subject and presenter negotiate boundaries and plan the scene together in advance.

A field trip to a local thrift store to explore some new looks

Role play can make you feel totally silly and awkward—or be the hottest thing that ever happened to your sex life. Join two dominatrices with a love of role play as they go over unique scene ideas, how to create your character, and ultimately how embracing the "play" in role play can provide confidence that lasts beyond the bedroom.

How do you navigate a relationship after a significant violation of trust? Charlotte and Romulus explore the impact of betrayal — an affair, broken agreements, or deep emotional wounds — and the path to repair. Using Attachment Theory as a guide, they dig into the emotional turbulence of jealousy, fear, and insecurity, and offer practical tools and honest dialogue for rebuilding trust into something deeper and more intimate than before.

Nick and team lead an unflinching self-assessment exercise: an honest, structured look at how you're actually coming across to others.

A series of short lightning talks from women sharing what they find sexually attractive and what actually works when it comes to having sex with them.

Learn the nuts and bolts of planning an orgy from seasoned orgynizers

A photographer takes fresh headshots you can actually use on your dating profiles. Come and go as you like.

A guided, men-only reflection circle — space to check in with yourself and other men in a structured, supportive format.

A small-group session with a 1:1 gender ratio. Men practice flirting with a partner and get live feedback from her plus coaching from the facilitator. May involve limited physical contact depending on the partner's comfort level.

A hands-on course blending breathwork, anatomy education, massage technique, and feminine embodiment practice to help you expand G-spot pleasure. Participants learn (and directly experience, at their own pace and off-camera) massage techniques, breathwork for building and releasing arousal, embodiment practices for body confidence, G-spot anatomy, and orgasm-with-penetration. You'll leave with practical tools and a new relationship to your own pleasure.

A philosophy talk from CJ the X, known for sharp, sex-positive video essays that mix philosophy, culture, and desire.

Have you been wishing and hoping for the perfect partner? As sex workers, men often ask us how they can meet someone in their personal life to replicate the kind of relationship they have with us. It's a popular fantasy to just stumble across the perfect person, but the reality is that achieving your dream relationship—sexual, romantic, or both—is more about work and intention than luck. In this class, learn some techniques to attract the relationship of your dreams.

Is submission really just "doing what you're told"? Kim Lee unpacks the psychology of submission — the motivations, emotional processes, and interpersonal dynamics behind it — covering what submission is and isn't, why people are drawn to it, consent and agency, emotional vulnerability, how physical submission can open emotional pathways, and common difficulties like shame, guilt, and fear.

An introduction to erotic hypnosis followed by hands-on practice in trios: one person hypnotizes, one is hypnotized, and an observer makes sure consent norms are followed throughout.

A talk for men that names and honors their power, strength, and capacity — while inviting reflection on what it's like to carry the capacity for harm alongside deep love and attraction for women. Framed to be self-esteem building and to inspire more care all around, not a takedown.

A gay porn performer teaches the fundamentals of topping anal — technique, prep, and communication for a better experience.

A foundational introduction to kink from veteran sex worker and educator Alice Little — vocabulary, mindset, and where to start if you're kink-curious.

Learn to lead partner dances with the kind of confidence that people can feel. Lead Like a Lover is an introduction to my Integrated Polarity work—a practice for creating attraction through honesty, polarizing connection, building heat, and deepening intimacy. Through dance, you’ll learn to communicate desire and direction clearly, stay attuned to your partner, and lead with presence rather than performance. Along the way, you’ll strengthen your inner game while developing an embodied skill that women genuinely love to experience.

A large-group presentation, with live demonstrations, on how to invite and lead physical escalation with attention, consent, and read-the-room skill.

Alice Little breaks down best practices for fingering and foreplay — technique, pacing, and reading your partner's response.

Aella — writer, sex researcher, and creator of some of the largest kink and dating surveys on the internet — shares fresh data and takeaways from her latest research. Come for the charts, stay for the unfiltered conclusions.

How can a submissive man search for a kinky partner with intention? Three professionally dominant women — Mistress Lux, Kim Lee, and Jade Desire — share what actually works when flirting and dating authentically as a kinkster.

An interactive workshop covering rope bondage safety and consent norms alongside technical fundamentals, with hands-on practice in pairs.

A discussion of masculine/feminine polarity as a framework for intimacy, and how understanding it can deepen connection.

A guided, men-only reflection circle — space to check in with yourself and other men in a structured, supportive format.

A panel exploring the shame and social fallout around casual sex — bad reputations, making mistakes, and how to carry it all with less shame. Panelists field audience questions prepared in advance.

An interactive workshop pairing people who want to be tied with people who want to tie. Pairs discuss boundaries together, then the person being tied is bound and, by prior agreement, may be blindfolded and given earplugs. Depending on the boundary discussion, pairs may include over-the-clothes touching or massage.

An introduction to impact play with a focus on good old-fashioned spanking. After a presentation on theory, safety, and consent, a hands-on "spanking lab" gives everyone a chance to practice.

A hands-on massage workshop covering theory, safety, and communication/consent basics, with plenty of opportunity to practice on a partner.

Circling is an interactive group practice for cultivating authentic, present-moment connection, exploring real-time thoughts, feelings, and reactions together. This session is conducted in the nude. No prior circling experience needed.

Theme: 70s. Music, dancing, and mingling into the night. What to wear: disco, glam, and hippie all count. Flares, satin, halters, big collars, bigger hair, gold everything. Thrift-store energy welcome. Dressing up is optional but highly encouraged.

An immersive, 1970s-inspired game show where contestants compete on custom sensor-equipped vulvas that project animated tongue patterns in real time, scored on rhythmic ability. Come watch — or compete.

An audience-driven, judgment-free Q&A on anything sexual-health related with Dr. Hoe Listic, MD. Bring the post-hookup panic questions, the 3am Google searches, the thing ChatGPT scared you about — nothing is off limits. [This session is intended for general sexual education and Dr. Hoe Listic will not provide medical advice.)

What are the actual ingredients for having great sex? What impact do the stories we tell shape the sex we end up having?

Circling is an interactive group practice for cultivating authentic, present-moment connection. Participants explore real-time experience together — noticing thoughts, feelings, and reactions as they arise — while building skills in presence, vulnerability, and relational awareness. No prior experience needed.

When you want to design a meaningful birthday gangbang for your friend When you want to hardball negotiate a business deal while spitroasting a slavegirl together When you need a pretty convoluted narrative to get off An introduction to designing immersive sex events for your friends

A flirtation with physics that fuses dance-floor romance with “I’ve got you” energy. Use these lifts as a party trick, a first-date flex, or a moment of delicious anticipation. Ever watched a man lift a woman effortlessly on the dance floor and thought, I wish I could do that? This workshop is about making that moment real, without years of dance training or superhuman strength. The emphasis is on intuition, connection, and body mechanics, not brute force. These are lifts that look cinematic but are surprisingly approachable, designed to make her feel safe, sensual, and light in your arms… and to make you feel confident doing it. No dance experience required. Just curiosity, respect, and a willingness to try something new. Come learn how to sweep a woman off her feet, literally.

Part 3 of 3: An interactive workshop series where women share their first impressions of men, men share how they'd like to be perceived, and men work to close the gap between the two.

Drethelin Garden set aside for casual flirting, with bingo cards on hand as conversation prompts and icebreakers.

An interactive workshop pairing people who want to be tied with people who want to tie. Pairs discuss boundaries together, then the person being tied is bound and, by prior agreement, may be blindfolded and given earplugs. Depending on the boundary discussion, pairs may include over-the-clothes touching or massage.

A style workshop covering the fundamentals of men's fashion, with live, constructive outfit feedback for anyone who wants a second opinion.

A workshop on identifying the thing you keep avoiding and breaking it down into something you can actually approach.

Sam Lidbury and Pandora break down the recurring tropes in erotica and romance novels and what they reveal about what women actually want.

A practical workshop on optimizing your dating profile — photo selection, bio writing, and the small changes that make the biggest difference.

An introduction to erotic hypnosis followed by hands-on practice in trios: one person hypnotizes, one is hypnotized, and an observer makes sure consent norms are followed throughout.

A workshop applying experience design pedagogy to the craft of building great sexual, intimate and quotidian experiences. Discover how structure, pacing and intentionality can be applied to intimacy and make it so she doesn't run for the hills.

A small-group session with a 1:1 gender ratio. Men practice physical escalation step by step — from eye contact, to extending a hand, to whatever their partner is comfortable with and responsive to. Sexual activity and kissing are prohibited; dance, massage, and embrace are allowed if the partner is comfortable with them.

Someone has called you creepy. Maybe more than one person. How can you make sense of that? We don't have all the answers, but we've thought some about it and we want to figure it out together. This will be a workshop / friendly discussion.

Are your standards reasonable? How long will it take you to find someone who meets your criteria? What strategy should you use to determine when to lock someone down and when to keep looking.

An anatomy and physiology deep-dive into full vulvar and uterine arousal: what's actually happening in the body during engorgement, why it matters for pleasure, and what it takes to get all the way there.

A guided, men-only reflection circle — space to check in with yourself and other men in a structured, supportive format.

Porn historian Noelle Perdue delivers an engaging talk on the history of adult film — where the industry has been and how it got here.

A short closing address, a reminder to fill out the feedback form, and small breakout groups for reflecting on the weekend together.

Theme: 007. A final celebration to close out SlutCon together before everyone heads home. What to wear: Bond and Bond villains. Black tie or a slinky gown, tux jackets, a vodka-martini attitude. If you own a velvet blazer, this is its night. Dressing up is optional but highly encouraged.